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Okay this is definitely going to be a series. I have lots of good information regarding social dynamics and playing “the game”. I won’t even think of calling myself an expert but whenever there is something I am interested in I make an attempt to learn and understand as much as I can about it. Who doesn’t want to get better at meeting women, or people in general? Unless you are married then all of this applies to you. I hope to keep the posts in these series short and to the point. No long rambles on theory I promise! Okay here goes.

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1. When you enter a room, bar, club, any social situation, you need to be smiling and having fun and interacting with a lot of various groups. Move around. Let people see that you are having a good time and many different people enjoy talking with you. I guarantee if you are seen as a social butterfly women will want to know who you are and be more inclined to listen to you when you come over to them. This also opens up the chance to get introduced to others whom you can game if you choose. I also suggest never be looking around like you are searching for attractive women, don’t be a creep. Once you get labeled as a creep you will be black-booked faster than MIT kids in Vegas.

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2. Be loud! This is such a huge mistake. Think back to when you first started clubbing and how you would say something on the dance floor on in a loud bar and the girl would say “What? I didn’t hear you.” This is such a momentum killer. You shouldn’t be repeating yourself. Practice just speaking louder overall in any social setting. It gives you that alpha male feel and thats the type of person women are attracted too.

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3. However, don’t try to prevent miscommunication by leaning in. Make them lean in to you. This is a very subtle action, yet the correct body language can convey so much! By leaning into someone you look weak and desperate. So stand up straight and start building confidence in your words and tone.

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4. In an attempt to stick to basics, I will leave you with this: Start learning to recognize that people are actually into you and elevate to the next level. I think lots of guys are afraid to come across too strong or as a creep, and yes this does happen, but if the indicators of interest (IOI) are there then you won’t be a creep because she is telling you to move forward. ie. Get a number, go somewhere else, make-out. Some simple IOIs are any kind of touching (graze the arm, punch the shoulder, kiss obv.), sincere laughing over a multitude of jokes (not pity laughs), or another one might be qualifing you with questions about your life (hobbies, work, etc) she wants to know more so she can justify her attraction for you.

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BONUS! - While writing that last paragraph I thought of another really easy mistake guys make. Stop asking for her name. Don’t ever ask, it shows you are interested. You never want women to think you are hitting on them. Just go over and strike up a conversation (I will touch on openers another time). If they ask for your name, then THEY are into you. Now doesn’t that make sense? And haven’t you been making that mistake over and over again?

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Obviously people can make these mistakes and still get laid…how do you think I was born? But if you want your social skills to be above par on a consistant basis then follow these tips and check back for another lesson next week.

Richie C.